Attached: The New Science of Adult Attachment and How It Can Help You Find--and Keep-- Love
Dec 2010 · Penguin
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“Over a decade after its publication, one book on dating has people firmly in its grip.”
—The New York Times
We already rely on science to tell us what to eat, when to exercise, and how long to sleep. Why not use science to help us improve our relationships? In this revolutionary book, psychiatrist and neuroscientist Dr. Amir Levine and Rachel Heller scientifically explain why some people seem to navigate relationships effortlessly, while others struggle.
Discover how an understanding of adult attachment—the most advanced relationship science in existence today—can help us find and sustain love. Pioneered by psychologist John Bowlby in the 1950s, the field of attachment posits that each of us behaves in relationships in one of three distinct ways:
• Anxious people are often preoccupied with their relationships and tend to worry about their partner's ability to love them back.
• Avoidant people equate intimacy with a loss of independence and constantly try to minimize closeness.
• Secure people feel comfortable with intimacy and are usually warm and loving.
Attached guides readers in determining what attachment style they and their mate (or potential mate) follow, offering a road map for building stronger, more fulfilling connections with the people they love.
—The New York Times
We already rely on science to tell us what to eat, when to exercise, and how long to sleep. Why not use science to help us improve our relationships? In this revolutionary book, psychiatrist and neuroscientist Dr. Amir Levine and Rachel Heller scientifically explain why some people seem to navigate relationships effortlessly, while others struggle.
Discover how an understanding of adult attachment—the most advanced relationship science in existence today—can help us find and sustain love. Pioneered by psychologist John Bowlby in the 1950s, the field of attachment posits that each of us behaves in relationships in one of three distinct ways:
• Anxious people are often preoccupied with their relationships and tend to worry about their partner's ability to love them back.
• Avoidant people equate intimacy with a loss of independence and constantly try to minimize closeness.
• Secure people feel comfortable with intimacy and are usually warm and loving.
Attached guides readers in determining what attachment style they and their mate (or potential mate) follow, offering a road map for building stronger, more fulfilling connections with the people they love.
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4.7
202 reviews
Gus Altobello
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May 19, 2023
Interesting information and exercises nestled between too many anecdotes about couples that may or may not exist. I would have preferred a deeper dive into the science that resulted in these conclusions, or at least a quality over quantity approach to the stories, but it still effectively conveyed the point.
Mal R
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January 2, 2024
This is a perfect book to put in perspective different attachment styles in relationships. I love the fact that there are real examples that truly depict different relationships out there. As an anxiously attached woman recently getting out of a relationship with an avoidant male, there was so much insight.
Daniya Nahdi
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February 26, 2024
The research is not quite deep and reading through this book feels like an absolute judgement, whether you are secure, avoidant, or anxious, while people may have more than one attachment style. However it is still helpful for those that just begin to learn about types of attachment and want to dive deeper into what kind of relationship you need.
About the author
AMIR LEVINE, M.D., is an associate professor of psychiatry and the director of the SecureLab at Columbia University. He is an adult, child, and adolescent psychiatrist and a neuroscientist. In his private practice, he supervises and trains therapists in novel attachment neuroscience–based treatments aimed at helping people become more secure. He sees individuals, couples, and families for consultation and treatment.
RACHEL S. F. HELLER, M.A., is a supervising psychologist who works both in the public sector and in private practice. She holds a master’s degree from Columbia University. In her work, she integrates attachment-based principles with cognitive behavioral therapy, acceptance and commitment therapy, and experiential-based approaches to help both children and adults.
RACHEL S. F. HELLER, M.A., is a supervising psychologist who works both in the public sector and in private practice. She holds a master’s degree from Columbia University. In her work, she integrates attachment-based principles with cognitive behavioral therapy, acceptance and commitment therapy, and experiential-based approaches to help both children and adults.
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