DEVIOUS: Real life Stories About Narcissistic Abuse volume 1

Story 2.

Mira.

Hi Coach Warren. Hope you're doing good. I am Mira from the Philippines.I've been watching your videos on youtube these past few days. I saw it very late. I was following some coaches from youtube who said the opposite of what you're saying. And I think I messed up. Its been 7 months since my ex of 10yrs left me and our 9yr old daughter for a girl whos half his age. 

It was so sudden. I am still shocked and still can't believe he can do it. Prior to that,we had some arguments regarding the project that we are doing. Then he went for a trip and met that girl in a bar. The time I knew that they were seeing each other after they met, I called the girl and asked her in a good way to just stop seeing my ex because she might ruin our family. But I think it was the reason that my ex did not stop pursuing her because I am interrupting them. 

Then he decided to leave us and just be with the girl. I'm not sure if they are already living together since I live in a different city for me to be away from them. During the first month of our breakup I begged him to stay for the sake of our kid but he said he made up his mind and there's no way he will come back to us. Since then,I have left them alone. But because of the coach on youtube who keeps on saying to be good to your ex to build emotional connection and he will come back,every time my ex visits our daughter,I was good to him. I even spend time with him like eating lunch,coffee or hanging out with our child.

 I thought in that way,he will come back. But it adds more to my pain everytime he goes back to his girl. It was us for the past 10yrs but because he wanted someone new we are left alone. It's really a struggle for me especially this time that he's not really communicating with our daughter unlike before he's asking how's my daughter,if we go to church etc. He moved on really fast. The level of their relationship is just like ours. How I wish he knew the pain I am feeling even though it's been 7 months already.

 I made a decision to not show any emotion anymore ever since I watched your video. I guess for the past 7 months that I've been good to him,I became so low value. I want to take my power back but my problem is our daughter. I also don't want her to see her dad anymore even for a while. Till I can totally move on. Please help me to get my power back and for him not to see me as a girl who just keeps following him.

Thank you in advance and God bless.